自我管理|如何在绝境中满怀希望

作者:chenhan发表时间:2018-06-29浏览:293
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  Dear readers,

  同一个事物,不同的人都会有不同的看法 。客观世界只有一个,对好坏的评判很大程度上会决定个人主观的看法。一千个读者,就有一千个哈姆雷特。每个人都带着有色眼镜看这个世界,如果你心里阴雨绵绵,那纵然世界阳光普照,暖意也无法入心怀。如果心有阳光,纵然冰雪覆地,世界也会充满色彩和生机。你是什么样,你的世界便是什么样。今天,小编特意通过一些TED演讲观点和语录,看看即使在心灰意冷的时候,如何重拾信心,继续阳光灿烂的日子。

  We all go through times when we see the world through cloudy-colored glasses. Times when it's tempting to just climb into bed — or bathtub — and hide out, maybe for up to a month. Fortunately for your loved ones, your livelihood and your life, we've gathered together eight tactics from TED speakers to cut through the fog.


  1

  Shift your expectations.

  改变你的期望值

  At times, it can seem impossible to stay optimistic in the face of the day's headlines. However, you can gradually start to change your brain by leaning into what cognitive neuroscientist Tali Sharot calls our "optimism bias."As she explains, “Optimism changes subjective reality. The way we expect the world to be changes the way we see it. But it also changes objective reality. It acts as a self-fulfilling prophecy.”

  What this means: when you wake up and think it's going to be a blah(乏味的) day, you're helping set yourself up to have just such a day. So the next time you catch yourself making a gloomy(阴郁的) prediction, first congratulate yourself for noticing. Then, think about a few things you can look forward to throughout the day — they needn't be big; never discount the simple yet sublime(迷人的) pleasure of a hot shower, that first sip of coffee, or the first few notes of your favorite song — and you'll begin training your brain to zoom in(放大) on positive events.


  2

  Recognize that you can change your life at any point.

  任何时候你都能改变你的人生

  Do you feel like it's hard to be look forward to the future because it seems all too predictable? Choice #1: resign(顺从接受不好的状况) yourself to the inevitable (and while you're at it, why not pick out the inscription(铭文) for your tombstone?). Choice #2: open yourself up to the possibilities that exist for everyone, at every age.

  Consider Paul Tasner. He was shaken out of his daily grind(苦工作) when he was laid off at the age of 64. His entire adult life, he'd worked for others, but at the age of 66, he decided to become a first-time entrepreneur.

  The Californian now makes biodegradable(可生物降解的) packaging that helps combat the plastic pollution crisis — and says, “I am doing the most rewarding and meaningful work of my life right now.” Contrary to what most of us think, starting a business is not something that is better to do when you're young. Older entrepreneurs in the US have a 70 percent success rate when launching new ventures, Tasner notes, compared to 28 percent for younger entrepreneurs.


  3

  Look for meaning in the most challenging moments.

  在绝望中找寻意义

  For some, pessimism is not a passing inclination(意向) but a near-constant outlook (态度)shaped by difficult, maybe brutal times. Even negative events can end up having positive effects, according to writer Andrew Solomon.

  “Avoidance and endurance can be the entryway to forging meaning,”he says. Solomon transformed a childhood marked by bullying and emotional torment into a life of helping others communicate their own stories of growth.

  His advice: "You need to take the traumas and make them part of who you've come to be, and you need to fold the worst events of your life into a narrative of triumph, evincing a better self in response to things that hurt.”


  4

  Listen to another person's story.

  倾听别人的故事

  When you're feeling down, it can help to get out of your own head.

  In 2003, Dave Isay founded the NYC-based nonprofit StoryCorps to forge connections and honor real people's stories. Today, more than 100,000 people have recorded conversations with their loved ones.

  This week, make it a point to ask someone — a family member, friend or even a stranger — to tell you a story about a meaningful time in their life. Listen deeply and intentionally.

  When you hear a story about the love, wisdom and courage that fill our most important moments, says Isay, “it can sometimes feel like you're walking on holy ground.”


  5

  Return to your home base.

  回到你的港湾

  Does your discouragement stem from being knocked down one too many times? Writer Elizabeth Gilbert knows what that's like. After the blockbuster success of her memoir Eat, Pray, Love, she released another book — and “it bombed,” she says.

  “I was fine,” she adds. Huh? “I will always be safe from the random hurricanes of outcome as long as I never forget where I rightfully live,” Gilbert says. That's because her home base is the act of writing itself — not getting good reviews, watching her books become best-sellers, or selling movie rights.

  How can you find your own center amid life's sturm und drang(动荡动乱)? Identify the thing or things in this world that you love more than you love yourself, says Gilbert. “That might be creativity, it might be family, it might be invention, adventure, faith, service, it might be raising corgis.”


  6

  Add some wow to your world.

  让你的生活中充满惊奇。

  It may seem wrong to stay cheerful in the face of the many big problems confronting us, such as wars and armed conflicts, climate change, and the continued incidence of serious diseases, to name a few.

  But rather than getting dragged down, you might want to look up — as in up at the sky. That's where drones are buzzing over Africa and delivering blood and plasma to hard-to-reach rural populations.

  Robotics entrepreneur Keller Rinaudo created Zipline, a system with battery-operated devices that are providing emergency supplies to hospitals in Rwanda. Think for a moment about the practical know-how, creativity, teamwork and just plain gumption(进取心) that made the idea a reality — and know that world-changing ideas are being hatched all around us. “Innovation leads to more innovation leads to more innovation,” says Rinaudo.

  Swap some of the time you spend reading or listening to the news; instead do a search for news stories with the key word “innovation”.


  7

  Remember the essential goodness of humanity.

  记住人性的善

  On the day of the school shooting in Sandy Hook, Connecticut, Mary Latham couldn't take her eyes off the news. Then a coworker came by her desk and told her what he'd just experienced in Starbucks. A kind stranger had bought a $100 gift card and, to lift people's spirits, he told the barista(咖啡师) to use to pay for the customers on line.

  She told the story to her mother, who was battling a second round of cancer. Her mom said, “There's alway going to be these horrible tragedies that happen in our lives, and these terrible things, but there's always going to be more good out there, and you just have to look for it.”

  After her mother died, Latham started collecting stories of human kindness from all 50 states, staying with strangers along the way. She is compiling a book that she hopes to place in hospital waiting rooms. “There is an unfathomable amount of kindness that I have seen,” she says, “and when we put our fears aside, when we connect to strangers, when we smile at the people next to us or put away our judgments, it opens up a door into an entirely different way of life.”


  8

  Think about your death (yes, really).

  想想死亡

  This doesn't need to be a morbid activity; artist Candy Chang has found it can be illuminating and centering. After someone close to her passed away, Chang was inspired to transform an abandoned home in her city of New Orleans into a giant chalkboard(黑板) with a single fill-in-the-blank sentence: “Before I die I want to ___.”

  As people completed the sentence with answers like “straddle(跨立于) the International Date Line,” “sing for millions,” or “plant a tree,” the wall changed from a neglected space into one that connected neighbors and highlighted their hopes and dreams. As Chang says, “In our age of increasing distractions, it's more important than ever to find ways to maintain perspective, and remember that life is brief and tender.” In this way, preparing for death — and thinking about all the things you can achieve right now — can be one of the most uplifting things you can do.


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